Sunday, March 28, 2004
The Significance of the Qing Ming Festival
Sunday Dhamma Talk 28-3-04
By Venerable Aggacitta
Venue: Kew Ong Yah Temple (Temple of Nine Emperor Gods)
In view of the Qing Ming Festival, we are having our dana here at the Kew Ong Yah Temple instead, as the Hokkien Cemetery is very crowded today.
Sunday, March 21, 2004
Sunday Dhamma Talk 21-03-04
By Venerable Kumara
Sunday, March 07, 2004
Adhammika (Unrighteous) Sutta
Sunday Dhamma Talk 7-03-04
By Ven Aggacitta
The first kind of person is ignorant in both worldly and spiritual matters. It is not wise to associate with such a person.
The second kind is capable in worldly matters but not in the spiritual. In my opinion, such a person is even more dangerous than the first. A successful businessman once said that in the past he used to look for business partners who were talented. After being cheated and disappointed a number of times, nowadays he looks out for the character of the person first before looking at his capabilities. Such should be the case when we consider whom to associate with.
The final one is of course the best, having eyes for both worldly and spiritual matters. Such are ones that we should associate with, for that would benefit us in both worldly and spiritual ways.
So, may you vote for those who have two well working eyes. Selamat mengundi!
Saturday, March 06, 2004
Sigalovada Sutta: Responsibilities of a Spouse
Sunday Dhamma Talk 06-03-04
By Ven Aggacitta
Venue: Residence of Ooi Teow Chuan
The importance of harmony in a marriage
The role of a wife is more demanding than that of a husband. She has to take care of the household, her husband and the children. In later life she also has to take care of the grandchildren because of her love for the children and grandchildren. It is also attachment to (and responsibility for) children that causes one to chase after wealth—in order to give one’s children and family a good life.
Responsibilities of a husband
He should treat his wife as an equal— a partner and friend, not as an inferior.
He should accept his wife as an individual, as a person in her own right and not despise her. Thus, he has to maintain a give-and-take relationship.
Monogamy is the rule in most societies. Practising polygamy will affect the finances of the family as the husband’s income has to be split. It will also give rise to negative attitudes in the matrimonial relationship due to suspicions and jealousy.
Although both may be working, it is usually the wife who manages the household. Thus he should give his wife the authority over household matters. In Myanmar and nearer home in Kelantan, the wife is given control over the finances as well.
It is in a woman’s nature to want to look good so he should provide her with the means to beautify herself. Thus for example, he should allocate some money to her to buy adornments for herself.
Responsibilities of a wife
She has to see that household tasks are properly managed.
Not only does she have to ensure that household chores are well managed; she also has to maintain harmonious relationships with the people in the house. Therefore, as a newcomer into her husband’s family, she needs to be humble in order to carve a niche for herself in the hearts of the other members of the family. Only then can she maintain a harmonious relationship with the family. She also has to establish good rapport with the household helpers. In this way she can maintain harmony in the home.
Just as a husband should be faithful to his wife, so too must the wife be to her husband. Both have to be more wary in situations involving the opposite sex so that misunderstandings do not arise.
She has to manage the home finances well and spend wisely.
She needs to be diligent and skilful in discharging her duties in the home