Don't Be Nice. Be Kind.Kumāra Bhikkhu
At first I liked it. I liked playing hero. I also liked being liked. But after sometime I didn’t like it anymore. It started to feel not so nice. There were times when I even got angry with them, not realising that I was part of the problem.
Here are some situations you may have encountered:
In all the cases above, whatever you decide, at least one person will be unhappy, and that may include you. But if you decide out of the need to be nice, then whatever you decide, you’re sure to be unhappy. You may even resort to lying, which violates your sense of honour, making you feel even worse. However, if you decide out of kindness, at least one person will still be unhappy, but you will be happy for acting out of kindness.
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